Mindset

Why is it wrong to believe in your dreams?

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I truly believed that there was a man living in the moon – my young eyes were adamant that I could picture his shadow. I looked out my window for a few years, secretly hoping that I could witness santa’s slay. And how I prayed for my next tooth to come out, so the tooth fairy could pay me a visit – the best year being when the fairy only had a Β£2 coin.

In a childhood that was sometimes painted with walls of loneliness, these naive imaginations, were like sheets wrapping me up in child-like qualities. They were a true testament that I was a kid.

To this day, I watch Cinderella and I am transported back to being 5 and striking my mind with beliefs – that good people always have the magical fairytale. To say this now, I could be an opportunist, or a disillusioned soul. Unless you leave school with remarkable results, you are soon expected to snap back into reality; choose a more reliable path.

The millennial generation, have been branded in the press as “selfish”, “lazy” and “entitled”. We have been brought up to want it all, or as a Daily Mail article published back in February this year said, “A generation with a huge sense of entitlement”.

My mother taught me to do what I wanted and what made me happy. I think I had all the ambition one could promise, only I had no real placement of where to go. I loved writing – minus the poetry that I couldn’t relate to or the books that made me want to actually fall asleep – no matter how much of a literary masterpiece they were classified. The university courses that had accepted me, didn’t make me want to reach.

What’s been notable in the last decade, is the shift from intellectual to creative. In my eyes, creative careers have more guidance than ever before. Makeup schools are plentiful and even social-media is now a ladder to a work route. The idea of travelling the world shooting people and not doing a 9-5 – creativity offers this affluence. You see it on Instagram and you see it with individuals that are our age. That makes us want to not be pigeon-holed into one specific plan.

Our eyes are open. We are a generation that has some form of control in the media. We can have multiple career titles and brand ourselves as if we are advertising to the market.

Unfortunately, this internet freedom, means the competition is vigorous. The likelihood being, that all the followers you have amassed, want their blog to be earning; they want their social accounts to be brimming with emails for free clothes, cosmetics and holidays. Statistically, few make the top floor window.

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The bubble bursts – in addition to realising your individuality and fight against the stereotypical path to success is not so individual – 500 million active instagrammers – you contend with the understanding that being an influencer, has a similar percentage to being a Hollywood star.

Quite enough to make you want to run to the nearest office. Be that as it may, we have the tools on offer to utilise and a hunger that rose with us as we aged. We see more dimensions and we know that true determination, takes us further away from the net.

Besides, life sure looked better with those childhood dreams. Now we have the motivation to pursue them.

Would you consider yourself a dreamer and have you ever been told to be more realistic?

Photography by Robert Billings

31 thoughts on “Why is it wrong to believe in your dreams?

  1. I’m definitely a dreamer and I’ve always dealt with this. Even with my own father unfortunately. He always says that I must not want to work or do anything real with my life since I would rather work from home or because I would rather write than be a teacher, doctor or something. It’s discouraging and it hurts when you don’t know where you can get that full support for your dreams. Why should I feel forced or pressured to go to become a doctor if that’s not what I want to be. I have to be unhappy just to have a “good job/career?” It’s like if you want to focus on a dream you won’t amount to anything in life and you’re just lazy not wanting to work. Writing everyday for hours, blogging or doing anything creating can’t be considered real work? Smh. I don’t know what it is.

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    • It’s so annoying when people try to decide your capabilities and what you should be doing. When they say you should follow your dreams…they’re actually saying follow the dreams that these intellectual jobs offer. Not that I think writing isn’t an intelligent job, but it’s not the stereotypical lawyer/doctor/scientist etc.
      I’m definitely a dreamer as well. I always have people wanting me to just do something ‘regular’, but it’s not me.
      My life doesn’t hold as much meaning, if I am not pursuing what I love. Unfortunately for us, I think we have to find inner strength because others don’t see our view point. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. I am glad I am not the only one with this predicament.

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      • Exactly, I don’t see myself doing those type of jobs and I feel like I’m capable of something more, not that doctors and lawyers aren’t great jobs. Everyone has different talents and abilities. I think we’re both on the right path and finding our strength each day✨

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  2. Love reading this, really makes you think!
    I would consider myself somewhere in between a dreamer and a realist, I do have big dreams but I try to not dream too big which can be quite a negative thing!

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    • Depending how you look at it, it can be quite positive. A mix of dreamer and realist means you can pursue what you want but also be practical. Sometimes I wish I was not so much a dreamer as I feel that can lead to disappointment.
      I always want my articles to make people think, so that’s a huge compliment! Thank you for reading sharing your opinion.

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  3. Definitely a dreamer, but I had the misfortune of not knowing what I wanted because I also craved stability, and thus pursued a more stable career. But, because I did, I felt unsuccessful, and it made me realize that I do want to pursue my dreams even if it’s a long and hard road. Thank you for the great post!

    Natalie | Holistic Health, Lifestyle, & Travel
    http://nataliesalchemy.wordpress.com

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    • I understand the need for stability and I took the unstable career path and it’s had many ups and downs. I hope you do feel successful and you pursue what you are after.
      Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts.

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    • Thank you! Happy that you loved reading it. The topic is close to my heart because I grew up very creative and ambitious and people were quite negative about it.
      There’s nothing wrong in being a realist, I hope you do focus on your goals though and that you reach them. xxx

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  4. I loved your post. I’ve been told many times that I am a dreamer but not in a good way. I’ve been told that my profession as a trainer is a hobby and that anybody can do it which is completely false because I’ve seen many people quit once faced with the reality many successful trainers always face. I am a fitness professional and I absolutely love what I do. Just because it isn’t the typical 9-5 job doesn’t mean it isn’t a profession. Personally I would go crazy being in an office from 9-5. You are right. We are in the age of creativity. There are no limits as to what we can make a career out of. I am earning a living being a trainer and it can’t be more gratifying. I consider myself an awoken dreamer…😌

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    • Thank you Emanuel for taking the time to comment. The fact that you are earning a living and doing what you love, means you are achieving far more than what people could dream of achieving.
      I don’t think anybody can do it. I think you need a lot of self discipline to be a PT and there many different routes you can go with it. You could even consider writing fitness articles which usually pay well. Ignore the people that use the term “dreamer” in a negative way! πŸ™‚

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  5. “To this day, I watch Cinderella and I am transported back to being 5 and striking my mind with beliefs – that good people always have the magical fairytale.”
    It feels good when I see people live in their childhood world. We tend to stop believing in ourselves as we grow up. And this attitude affects adversely. Like a child, we should always think that everything is possible and there is no one better than me who make this thing happen. No shame, I still watch Popeye. He has forearms bigger than biceps which is sort of unrealistic but appreciable. Fine. Keep working and live well.

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