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25 life lessons: Wisdom I want to remember

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Instead of a birthday tag, I will be ‘blog celebrating’ my 25th yesterday, with these 25 life lessons. Let me know your favourites.

Do not accept what can be changed

Complain or change. No matter how many plausible excuses I muster, I have to devise a plan or live with a repetitive mind.

Try and change for the better

Every year, I want to be mentally stronger. I want to achieve more growth and more life experience. It is important to edit my mind as much as my hair.

Find the good in memories

Whether it is heartbreak or lost friends – whatever ending we may occur, I want to appreciate the fun. People come into our lives at certain times. Maybe they go after the rollercoaster, or perhaps they stay till the park is closed. As long as they had made me laugh at one time or another, I will move on with a smile.

Admit my flaws

In order for acceptance, I want to face up to my fears; face up to the thoughts that I would prefer to ignore. Humans by nature are imperfect. By admitting my flaws, I own up to my truth. I am not hiding parts of me and conceiving a lie.

Accept my friends flaws

If they are genuinely a great friend and there by my side, I do not want to make a fuss that they occasionally show up late and refuse to try a restaurant that I like, which has an unusual cuisine. I can grow with friends, but I cannot invest time in trying to switch them.

Own my style

I thought that style meant trendy. I questioned my style – I do not like wearing much jewellery – is that wrong?

What brings me confidence and makes me feel glamorous/chic/sophisticated; that is to be embraced.

Listen without agreeing

Knowledge is power. It is crucial for me to soak in opinions – especially the ones that differ from my own, without instantly believing that they are right. Opinions are just that.

Crowds are individual, lost people

I tend to become anxious around a large group, because I collectively imagine their words to each be similar. In theory, they might share the same anxiety. They might be wondering if they stand out clumsily too.

No one should be placed on a pedal stool

Instead of thinking – will they like me? – I should be asking if I like them. If I am going to elevate a person, I should elevate myself too.

The sky is my limit

This mindset will grant me the capability to pursue. By teaching that I can overcome obstacles and other stances, I can work that much harder. Instead of walking away and giving up, I will reach further.

Work my hardest, to be my best

Aaliyah said it best. When I figure out what I want…I have to give everything.

Compete only with me

Comparing to another will only convince me that I fall short. In reality, we all individually have our own weaknesses and strengths.

Be grateful for every accomplishment

This significantly transformed my fitness. By mentally rewarding even the tiniest of progress, I managed to keep motivation. I hope to continue to be grateful and to award recognition.

Stop remaking history

My mind can fantasise people and situations. This can stop me from moving on. Face up to my reality and know when the bad outweighs the good.

Do not listen to negativity

One of the hardest lessons; it is all too easy to inhale negativity. This leads me to my next point…

Do not listen to my own negativity

Whenever I want to analyse until I find reason to complain, I need to take that energy and find a contrasting place to refocus it.

Defy myself to break out of my box

From the moment we are born, our lives are almost boxed. People declare us to be loud, quiet, and intelligent; they put limitations on us. I always want to push the boundaries. I always want to defy my expectations.

Always find time for self-love

Whitney sang “The greatest love of all, is easy to achieve, learning to love yourself, it is the greatest love of all”. If that is selfish, than be selfish. If I do not love myself, how can I expect my partner, family and friends too? How can I support someone, if I cannot support myself?

Everything happens for a reason

I choose to believe this. It kind of takes the pressure off. When people especially come into my life at difficult moments, it gives me peace to think that they were planned. I am not religious, but I am very spiritual.

Welcome failure

The times when I did not receive an email or call back, or the times when I heard the word no; those times made me. I would not be who I am today if I did not know failure. In general, it has opened my eyes and I hope that – likely – when it strikes again, I welcome the lessons from it.

My body’s a temple

This may sound ‘cheesy’, but my surgeries did adapt my viewpoint. Before going through my operations, I remember feeling petrified. If you would have told me what I would have had to of gone through beforehand, I would have not had any courage. At my hospital, I became one of the fastest recovering patients.

I recovered quickly because I mentally told myself that I could. I met a patient who had a similar surgery that went wrong and I will never forget him looking at me and saying “I wish I had your back” as he sat in a wheelchair. From then on, I decided that my health is vital and I should appreciate what health I have – I want to continue appreciating.

Money does not equal happiness

In honestly, money equals some. To consider money as a solid path to happiness nonetheless, is wrong. I dated a wealthy guy and I was probably the most insecure and saddest that I have ever been. Success is the factor that I want to drive me and money should be the bonus.

Not everyone changes for the better

Going back to change, unfortunately it is not always an improvement. As much as we want ‘best friends forever’ or partners that have seen us on a valuable section of our journey, life is just too short to carry on with people who no longer offer positive company.

Age is nothing but a number

As I am in my mid-twenties, I am noticing how diverse my other mid-twenty friend’s lives are. In this decade, we are expected to get married, start a family, buy a home, earn a stable income, travel the world, live recklessly, have fun and do just about everything that one possibly can in life. It is ok to be at a different stage. As long as I move along on my journey, I am living life to the full.

Do not take yourself too seriously

As my favourite Lauren Bacall said, “Do not take yourself too seriously. You have to take your work seriously, but do not take yourself too seriously”.

Do you have a life lesson to add? Which one’s can you relate too? 

 

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33 thoughts on “25 life lessons: Wisdom I want to remember

  1. Happy Birthday my darling!! I hope you had the best day and loved every minute of it!!

    This is a beautiful post, I get the feeling your an old soul and so much older than your years…. In the best kind of way!!

    Every year, I want to be mentally stronger. This was the money shot for me and what stood out to me the most. I have a feeling though if i was to read this every few weeks a different line would always stand out!!

    Here’s to another year of being beautifully you!! 😘

    xxx

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    • Thank you so much! I had a lovely day although there was a random moment after lunch when I ended up watching films because it was too early to get ready!!

      People call me an old soul all the time. Even my music choices are not modern. That is a really big compliment for you to say that.
      I am hoping that anytime I feel a bit down or anxious, I can go back to this post. It was really uplifting to write. Here’s to another year of us blogging and communicating!
      xxx
      On a side note, sometimes your name comes up as Hazel and not Mrs.S LDN and I can never reply when your name is Hazel. It’s so weird I have to find a Mrs.S LDN to get onto your blog. – I am not complaining by the way, just letting you know in case you are unaware of it! xx

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      • Watching films is never a bad thing!! I caught up on a few this weekend I had on my list for a while now!! Delighted with myself 🙂

        It is such a huge compliment so you take it!!

        I have no idea why that happens and no one has mentioned it before so thank you!! Will look into it with my host asap! Thanks for pointing it out!! xxx

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  2. Wishes galore on your birthday and the amazing year ahead! You share a wise wonderful list. Loved reading all your lessons, I too don’t wear much jewelry and my favorite of you list is – Crowds are individual, lost people.

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  3. A very happy Birthday Laura, this post is as beautiful as you are as a person. Each lesson reflects the thinker in you. Each lessson is as universal as human emotions, just that not many people have a gift of introspection and making the best of the given situation. Truly inspiring.
    xx
    Saabri

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  4. This is a lovely post Laura, and you look absolutely gorgeous in those photos! I really like the organic feel of them. Also I couldn’t agree more with the one about constantly improving yourself, and not taking yourself too seriously. I feel that many people get wrapped up in their own heads sometimes and sadly don’t even realise it. Great read, and hope you had a lovely 25th birthday! x

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  5. Happy birthday girl! This was such a cute and nice way to celebrate your birthday here. I can relate to so many things that you listed especially ‘everything happens for a reason’ one because I just choose to believe in that too! xx

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    • Thank you girl!! I thought it would be a good post to look back on and a little different to just writing about it. It is nice to know that you believe that everything happens for a reason. I know with some things in life it is difficult to say, but in general, I really like believing in it. xx

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  6. Absolutely love this post and relate to it so much! I’m always worrying about what other people think of me and whether they will like me – need to start realising it’s a two way thing xx

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    • I have always worried about others before worrying about myself. But when you think about it, we are all human and equal, so no one should be placed on a higher stance. Hopefully, we both stop worrying about others and focus on ourselves more. 🙂 xx

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